The Power of Engagement

Group of happy eggs with smiling faces representing a social networkIn my last post, I described the online relationship I’ve formed with Linda Samuels through social media. Don’t be mistaken – that kind of relationship doesn’t just happen because you create an online profile. Just like offline relationships, you have to work at it.

It seems like everybody and her brother is marketing their business through blogging and social media, but how many are actually taking the time to read and comment on what others have posted?

Several weeks ago, Tracey Foulkes of Get Organised in South Africa posted a question on a Facebook group about flexible working hours. Having worked staggered schedules and a compressed work week in two of my jobs, I was happy to share my experience, and I was subsequently quoted in Tracey’s blog post, Flexi-working Hours Can Boost Revenue.

Last week, as I was reading some of the submissions to this month’s Professional Organizers Blog Carnival, I posted a question on Stephanie Calahan’s post, which inspired her to write another post in response: Is it Possible to be an Outgoing/Extroverted Introvert?

So, simply by posting comments on Facebook and a blog, I’ve received exposure for my business as well as backlinks to my website, which is a key factor in search engine optimization these days.

The next time you’re reading what someone has posted on their blog, Facebook, Twitter, or some other social media site, take a moment to leave a comment. That’s what makes it social media, after all! It is worth it, as proven by my recent experiences noted above.

This will be my last post here at From the Desk of Janet Barclay for a little while. Yes, I know I’ve said this before, but I’m about to make some big changes to the site, which I’m sure you will like!

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What goes around comes around

Linda Samuels

When I signed up for Twitter four years ago, I had no idea how much it would help me to expand my network. I’ve received referrals and inquiries, books and products to review, guest blogging opportunities, and connections to people I now consider friends, even though we’ve never met in person. One of those people is Linda Samuels, author of The Other Side of Organized.

Linda is a regular participant in the Professional Organizers Blog Carnival, and was kind enough to write a guest post for me about how she fulfilled her dream of writing a book, so when she invited me to take part in her ”Ask the Expert” series, I didn’t hesitate for a moment. If you’ve ever considered enlisting help, whether from a virtual assistant such as myself, or in any area of your life, I hope my answers to Linda’s questions will enlighten you and perhaps even encourage you to take that next step.

You may not realize that the topic for August’s Professional Organizers Blog Carnival was Top Ten Lists. Linda’s submission was titled 10 Best Sources for Organizing Help, and much to my surprise and delight, not only did she include the Professional Organizers Blog Carnival on her list, she cleverly used that opportunity to announce my upcoming appearance on her blog.

Linda and I are very different kinds of people: my personality type is ISTJ while hers is ENFJ, yet despite that, or perhaps because of it, we get along nicely and learn much from each other. Our relationship reminds me of that old song:

We belong to a Mutual Admiration Society.

Is there someone in your life who inspires and supports you? I’d love to hear about it!

How to Tell the Difference Between Daily Stress and an Anxiety Disorder

casual man worriedI don’t often have guest posts on this blog; after all it is called “From the Desk of Janet Barclay,” but every once in a while someone contacts me about a topic that I consider too important not to share with my readers. If you ever feel stressed or anxious (isn’t that all of us), this post by Calm Clinic publisher and founder Ryan Rivera is for you.

Anxiety is considered a negative term, but it has a genuine evolutionary benefit. Anxiety is the activation of the “fight or flight” system – a system that is designed to notify your mind and body when you’re in danger, and help give you an instinct to respond accordingly.

Without it, you wouldn’t be scared of going down dark alleys at night, nor would you be afraid when a poisonous spider is sitting on your face and looking at you menacingly.

When the Anxiety is a Real Problem

Over thousands of years, however, the way we live our lives has less of a need for the fight or flight system. It’s valuable, certainly, and it’s something that can help you in situations where you’re really in danger, but it’s not that common to be hunted by predators or face to face with a wild boar.

At the same time, we live our lives in a way that cause us to deal with mental stress on a regular basis. Whether it’s going to work at a job you hate or being told that your neighbor is probably dangerous, there’s a good chance that you deal with issues regularly that keep you mentally stressed.

The combination of these two factors can be a real problem, and one that can affect your mental health so strongly that it becomes a part of your character. You become so stressed that you experience anxiety in situations that don’t call for anxiety. This is known as an anxiety disorder.

Characterizing Anxiety as a Problem

The key issue, of course, is how to know when you’re suffering from serious anxiety or when you’re simply living with daily stress. It’s important to remember, however, that if you believe your stress is affecting your health or happiness, there’s no harm in seeking out some type of counseling or treatment. Any time your stress affects your happiness it can be a problem.

However, anxiety is diagnosable if it falls under the following criteria (from the DSM-IV-TR):

Excessive anxiety about a number of events or activities, occurring more days than not, for at least 6 months.

The person finds it difficult to control the worry.

The anxiety and worry are associated with at least three of the following six symptoms (with at least some symptoms present for more days than not, for the past 6 months):

  • Restlessness or feeling keyed up or on edge
  • Being easily fatigued
  • Difficulty concentrating or mind going blank
  • Irritability
  • Muscle tension
  • Sleep disturbance

The anxiety, worry, or physical symptoms cause clinically significant distress or impairment in social or occupational functioning.

It should be noted, however, that there are other issues at play as well. It’s possible to experience mostly physical anxiety without the worrisome thoughts. There are also different types of anxiety disorders, including panic disorder and obsessive compulsive disorder, that fall under different sets of criteria.

Despite the above diagnostic criteria, the final line is what’s most important. If you feel that your physical symptoms, your overall anxiety, or the amount of worrying you do on a regular basis affects your happiness or functioning, then your anxiety is a problem, and may be worth a visit to a trained psychologist. Even if you don’t have a diagnosable form of anxiety, that does not mean that relieving that anxiety isn’t important.

You Don’t Have to Do it Alone

If it were easy to simply turn off their anxiety and worries, then people would do it. The reality is that anxiety is based on dozens of factors and life experiences.

  • Your upbringing.
  • Your genetics.
  • Your social experiences.
  • Your diet/exercise level.
  • Your daily stress.

Anxiety is not the type of condition that can simply be turned off with each negative thought or feeling. It needs special attention to help respond to all of the different reasons that you experience anxiety. Luckily, anxiety treatments are genuinely possible and backed by evidence. The key is to simply be willing to get the help you need.

About the Author: Ryan Rivera is the author of www.calmclinic.com – a website dedicated to those dealing with anxiety, both for life stress and as the result of a disorder.

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Catch me on Curious Muriel Online Radio

I’m thrilled to announce that I’ve been invited to be a guest on Curious Muriel, a weekly blogtalkradio show hosted by two Canadian women entrepreneurs named Wendy Matthews and Rashmi Biswas.

They’ve asked me to share my thoughts about blogging, so I hope you’ll listen in next Thursday, August 2 at 9:00 AM EDT. Please go to http://www.facebook.com/CuriousMuriel for more information.

Lapping Up the Link Love…

in the spotlightI’ve been up to my old tricks again… here are a few of the questions I’ve answered for other bloggers lately:

People are even talking about me behind my back!

And, even though I wasn’t mentioned by name,  I was pleased as punch to see the Professional Organizers Blog Carnival which I’ve hosted for over three years mentioned in the Quo Vadis blog.

But hey, I’m happy to share the spotlight – feel free to post links to your latest work here too!

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